CLOSET JEDI, HOW TO DRESS FOR A MAN
There is an epidemic sweeping America. Heterosexual, women are making the huge mistake of dressing for other women instead of dressing for men. Designers continue to create these styles that may look great in a magazine or on a mannequin but miss the mark entirely when it comes to turning men on. It needs to stop. When it comes to style it is important to know what a man likes so you can edit your wardrobe and take an outfit and make it man-friendly. There’s always that one girl in the group who gets all the guys to turn their heads, can laugh and have a great time collecting numbers left and right. What does this girl have? Well what she doesn’t have is too much make-up, but the right amount. She doesn’t have a too short skirt or wayyy too much cleavage but know what to show and how much. She may even be wearing a well fitting pair of jeans and a causal top but either way, her look appeals to a men. She probably has an ease to her, a confidence so she doesn’t require the bells and whistles of adornment.
The symptoms are simple. A woman who dresses for other women owns dresses that have lots of patterns, prints or are too structured and more appropriate for a business dinner. She may have taken a chance on high-waisted jeans, may even have Capri pants and describe items in her wardrobe as “cute,” “girlie, or “professional.”Fantastic! Keep those items for visits with the family and for business meetings but if you are interested in getting the right kind of male attention, and I don’t mean dressing like a streetwalker because that’s not at all what I advocate, you need to designate a section of closet space on clothes that will get a double take from a man. You will be shocked and surprised at what they like. So get ready to rethink your closet, donate some clothes to goodwill and make room for a man magnet wardrobe. Guys, show this article to your girlfriends, wives, friends and help them.
On my facebook wall I engaged men (and women) on the topic of women’s style. Specifically I wanted to offer guys the opportunity to spill what gets the thumbs up and down when it comes to women’s style choices. I was BLOWN away at the level of detail. Guys really have opinions on what they like and how women often miss the mark.
FIRST, men notice EVERYTHING. They may not know the difference between an A-line dress or a sheath, but they like what they like and know it when they see it. Sundresses were very very popular among guys. “I like that it’s an easy feminine look but it can’t be in a crazy bold pattern or flowers. I don’t like when it looks like my grandma’s bed sheets, freaks me out. A simple sundress is perfect and it makes me wonder what she’s got on under it,” Mike, 31 shared.
Ok so sundresses, in a simple pattern, get the thumbs up from guys. Excellent! Ladies add that to the shopping list.
“I went out with this girl who wore what looked like a fitted t-shirt but it was a dress. It was in this cotton fabric. It was soft and I can tell she wasn’t wearing any underwear nor bra. It covered her and hugged her perfectly. It wasn’t too in your face sexy but casual and laid back and sexy as all hell. She wore it with these wedge sandals and we barhopped. This is like the ideal girlfriend, hot but approachable. She always dresses so well. Every time I see her she looks insanely hot. The other night she was in linen shorts, sandals and a simple tank top with this little star necklace that fell right at her chest. Her ass looked amazing in those shorts and again the fabrics were easy and soft. I kept touching the small of her back by her waist just to feel how soft that tank top was.” –Christian, 34.
“This chick I’m good friends with is GORGEOUS. But she is really into this Hippie look and she takes it too far. She looks like she’s in a movie about the 60’s. The other day she was at this group dinner and she was wearing this big billowy dress in this paisley print pattern and this leather headband worn like a halo over her forehead and these feather earrings. Oh my God I was calling her flower child all night. I’m cool with a woman having a certain style but it shouldn’t take away from an amazing shape and beautiful face. I know she’s into me but I can’t handle the flower power look.” – Rob, 29
“I went on a brunch date with a girl and she was wearing a sundress but it was to the ground like a gown. We were putting away drinks, having a good time. The poor thing got up to use the restroom and the dress caught the bottom of the chair, which when she moved slammed the table and led to a domino effect of spills. I told the story to another friend and I learned there’s a name for this style of dress, the ‘maxi dress??’ Yeah it’s a nice look but whoa be careful. Hahaha” –Stefano 37
Wow I was on the fence about the whole maxi dress thing. I’m only 5’3” but in heels 5’7” or 8 so I could pull it off but for me it’s sooo much fabric to deal with. That story is enough for me to steer clear.
“I work with this girl who is around 27 and she wears these hair accessories that are flowers, feathers, bows. I don’t get it. I can see a simple hair clip or ponytail twist but she had a peacock feather sticking out of her head. It was odd.” –Scott, 33
Accessories can be a conversation piece or a barrier. I have this simple silver necklace with a pendulum pendant on it. Whenever I wear it guys compliment it and ask me about it. I tell them it’s a pendulum and it reminds me that remaining centered and balanced is important. Also in life when a situation pulls you to one extreme eventually you’ll go to the other so that you end up back in the middle. Jewelry has a way of inspiring conversation. Use it wisely. I see women with big complicated earrings that dangle. Immediately I think what if a guy wants to kiss your neck and gets whacked in the nose with an earring? Guys like hoops, small or medium sized hoops. One in silver one in gold and you’re set.
When it came to dressing sexy for a night of clubbing guys don’t like lace or ruffles or feathers. But they LOVE LOVE LOVVVVE a bare back or bare shoulders. If you want to turn heads, find a backless dress. There’s something about a woman’s back that makes a man can’t resist. Remember Hillary Swank at the Oscars a few years ago? Fantastic! The same holds true for strapless dresses. I once had a guy tell me I should always wear strapless dresses because I have collarbones that invite kissing. WOW! Really? Collarbones? I have to worry about having good collarbones? Who the hell notices collarbones? This further proves that guys really appreciate the curves of a woman’s body and they like when clothes compliment these natural blessings.
“I saw this insanely hot girl at Mokkai. She had on a black dress a little above her knees. Her body was great, curvy but in shape. It was a simple classy looking dress. She had a low side ponytail which looked cool because one side of her neck was exposed. Her face was beautiful. Then she came my way walked past me and when I turned to check her out from behind her entire back to her tailbone was bare. There were just two little straps on her shoulders holding up the dress. SO SEXY. Instantly I had visions of kissing that back of hers and slipping that dress off of her. I was ruined for the rest of the night.” –Vincent, 41
When it comes to make-up every guy across the board said that Miami women wear too much and most women don’t have a day look and a night look. Coming from New York, a daytime look meant a way more subtle make-up version, just polished and professional. I like make-up but, I like when it isn’t so contrived. Liquid liner in a complicated Audrey Hepburn wing or heavy Kardashian make-up isn’t my thing. I know my features, my coloring, so I use makeup to enhance what I got, cover flaws, even out my complexion so I look healthy and with a glow. I’ve never been told by any man, with the exception of my father when I was 14 and into my Madonna Like a Virgin Phase, that I wear too much make-up. If anything the guys I know like when I’m fresh faced. “Lis you look 16 without make-up.” Recently I was greeted with wide eyes and a “WOW, you look niiiice Lis,” by a guy who often sees me with very little or no make-up on. It’s nice when he appreciates me both ways. It’s cool to be comfortable with a man enough to not wear any make up and some shorts and a t-shirt around your home but, too much of that is no good. I’m a woman that likes to dress up nice for a man and nice can totally mean causal or it can mean full on hot.
Carlos, 37 said it best. “I like when I run into a girl I know on Lincoln Road or around town and she’s in shorts, flip flops, maybe mascara and lip gloss and then later that night I see her in a dress and more done up. She knows when to turn it up and how to do make-up accordingly for what she’s doing. I like that. The worst is make-up at the beach. But there are some girls who are really great at applying make-up for the beach so that it looks natural. You get really really close and see some sparkle to her eye and color to her lip but it’s subtle like the Sports Illustrated swimsuit girls. You know those models have on make-up but it’s really natural.” -James, 31.
Ok so ladies, when you go to the beach I have the perfect make-up routine for you. You’ll look awake and fresh faced but not made up. First use SPF moisturizer. Then the key is strategic use of concealer. I put a little under my eyes and use it to dab on any blemishes. Then I swoosh a little bit of Physician’s Formula blush illuminator on my cheeks for a sun kissed glow. Then waterproof mascara and Urban Decay or Sephora waterproof eye pencil in a gold color lightly on my top lash line and lower inside corners. On the lips I swear by Revlon Colorstay liquid lipstick but I put a little bit on and then rub it in with my finger and top it off with some Banana Boat SPF lip balm. The lips will stay colored all day. All of these items can be found at CVS or Walgreens or Ulta on Lincoln Rd.
Ultimately a woman has to feel comfortable in her own skin. Dressed up or down, a man sees confidence shinning through. So ladies, when you walk, hold your head high. Walk with purpose as if the streets are your runway. You never know who might be watching.