Great Gloss, Bad Kiss
A few weeks ago while at a networking luncheon, I had the pleasure of meeting Stacy Reid Creator, TINte Cosmetics which has a celebrity following including Jennifer Anniston, Eva Longoria, Charlize Theron, Cameron Diaz, Drew Barrymore, Rachel McAdams and Katie Holmes who you may have heard by now, told Tom Cruise to kiss off.
Stacy and I chatted and I told her I’m a blogger and would love to try and then review some of the lip glosses featured in her fun line. www.tintecosmetics.com. As per the packaging “products are tested on boys, not animals.” We exchanged e-mails and I received a package with “Pepper on the Rocks” flavored lip shine created to have a subtle taste of Dr. Pepper and a flavored lip gloss tin of Peaches and Cream. Of course I tried them both and LOVED them. Here’s why:
- They aren’t sticky. Guys hate kissing lips covered in sticky, sloppy lip glosses.
- They don’t bleed. Nothing more awful than when the color fades leaving a goopy mess around your mouth.
- They aren’t overwhelming. Yeah you don’t need to be a professional make-up artist to rock these glosses. These are more like the “throw in your bag and go” kind of glosses. You don’t need a mirror. They are real glosses for busy active women, not princesses who have 45 minutes to primp.
Coincidentally around the same time I received the glosses my attention was turned towards kissing. Why? Well because recently, I had the great pleasure of amazing, feel it everywhere kisses. These are the kind of kisses that feel familiar. It is as if we know each other from another lifetime and we kissed then for a long time, maybe were lovers and found each other again in this life to kiss…again. This is what I describe as “kissing chemistry” and ya get ONE SHOT. Some girls who are polite, like ne, try to make excuses in their mind for the guy if he delivers a less than impressive kiss. Awwh maybe he was nervous…let me go out with him again and give him another shot. Lesson learned, bad first kiss leads to mediocre second kiss and confirmation that you aren’t feelin it. It’s okay. Put him in the friendzone, gloss up and call it a day.
So what makes a kiss bad? Well for one thing a total deal breaker for me is coffee breath. I NEVER in my life attracted men who drink coffee (until now). My ex husband may indulge in an espresso or a macchiato but it’s always when we dine out and never in the home. We never even owned a coffee maker, pot, or espresso machine. I got one for our wedding and we re-gifted it. GROSS! I can’t stand the smell of coffee let alone coffee breath. Blech! I used to work in an Italian restaurant in college and would have to make the cappuccinos and espressos. I’d hold my breath the entire time. So when I met a gentleman who I came to learn starts his day with a POT yes POT of coffee and refers to his HUGE cup of Dunkin Doughnuts coffee as his “crack,” I knew this wasn’t going to be a match.
Another thing that makes the kiss bad is bad tongue movement, lack of strength or “lead.” I like a man to kiss with confidence. Kissing confidently comes when there is 100% certainty that the other person wants to be kissed. If you are 99% sure with 1% doubt, go in for a hug see what she does. A woman, at least this one, will let you know way way way before the kiss that she’s interested. If you walk her to the door and she still seems as if she’s sizing you up don’t kiss her. You’ll be apprehensive and will be kissing for permission and not for seduction. Women want to be seduced and the kiss is like the movie trailer previewing what’s to come. If the kiss is bad she will presume the sex will be bad and into the friendzone you go. Oh and the whole lizard tongue thing is awful. That little light poke of the tongue GROSS. It’s like an iguana going for a lemon. AWFUL!
Another thing that makes the kiss bad is the lack of genuine interest in the kissing altogether and more of an emphasis on getting in there (sexually). There can be loads of attraction but if a guy is just into the sex and rushes through or skips the kissing part with zero tenderness forget it, it will turn me off. Friendzone for him too and I don’t give a shit how sexy I find him. That’s bullshit and my lips are too good not to be put to use.
Okay enough of the negative, these TINte lip glosses are too damn good to waste on negative kissing energy. Let’s explore what makes a great kiss. Thankfully I have had my share over my years of kissing and whoa, am I grateful for that.
As I said earlier a good kiss requires confidence and a lead. I don’t want to be asked if I can be kissed. I want to be told. Hottest kiss was when a guy leaned into me and said, I’m so kissing you right now and then slid his hands on my face and neck and looked at me dead in the face smiled and laid one on me that literally changed the trajectory of my life. That was a game changer kiss for sure.
Another game changer kiss came from my now ex husband. That kiss was when I was 20 and he came to my dorm to drop off my study notes. I was about to get ready to go out with friends. I was wearing no make-up, shorts, t shirt and I was mid sentence and he just stood up walked up to me and again took my face in his hands and BAM kissed me, stopped looked at me, smiled and kissed me again. Then I made the mmmmm sound and I was DONE. I ended up leaving the guy who I let think was my boyfriend because I was 20 and that’s what you do when you’re 20 to go out with the man who would kiss me for the next 21 years of my life. Sadly our kisses are now reduced to sweet pecks on the lips but there’s love behind every one of them so they are sweet in my heart.
More recently I’ve been enjoying the deep sultry sexy kisses of a man who just ended a 5 year relationship and doesn’t want “the responsibility of a girlfriend.” The physical is hot and heavy but since it’s not going to go anywhere and he’s traveling the world only to see me in between travels, it is safe to say his steamy kisses will quickly lose luster. I’m an out of site out of mind person or in this case off my lips off my mind person. I need the bonding, the one-on-one time WITH CLOTHES ON!! That’s what builds and sustains it for me. The kisses can be amazing but if I feel there won’t be any end point or goal to the interactions I lose interest. At this point of my life I have longer relationships with my lip glosses and the TINte glosses will be with me for a while.
Interestingly TINte Cosmetics was started with a kiss that then led to love, a love so special that it inspired a brand of cosmetics based on simpler times and sweet memories. The owner, Stacy Reid was from LA and worked for Lucky Brand. She was in Miami on business, worked in some pleasure as anyone with a clue does when they come to Miami and went to the popular club MYNT. There she met a man named Matthew and they hit it off. Then came the kiss which evidently knocked Stacy and Matthew on their asses so much so that they wound up married. They started the line TINte Cosmetics so they can spend time together and kiss any time they want. They’ve been together ever since.
Notice, Stacy’s first kiss didn’t lead to a one night stand or a pointless friends-with-benefits arrangement of screwing every other week until someone better appears, nor did it lead to bad kisses with zero romantic chemistry that lead to friendships or nothing at all. It led to love and then a business. Now THAT is some kissing power.
I absolutely recommend this brand for any lady out there who wants an easy pop of color without any fuss. These glosses are for ladies seeking kissable inviting lips. When someone gets close to kissing you they may even catch a subtle scent of cake batter, bubble gum, lemonade, coconut and more. These flavored lip glosses include multi-moisturizing and nourishing properties and are enriched with Shea Butter making these sexy shimmer lip glosses the best gloss for chapped lips!
Not sure what kind of kissing karma will come my way once this article is out there. Hopefully it will sort out a whole lot of things with a whole lot of people. It’s been almost 3 weeks since I had a kiss that did anything for me. That’s pretty pathetic and not like me. But it’s okay I decided that if the kisses aren’t good, nor frequent enough for my taste, I’ll just gloss up these lips and keep on smiling.
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